Monday, July 18, 2011
The Trojan Horse - Birth Control
Unfortunately in America the odds for a new couple getting married to have a lasting marriage is not very high. According to most studies out there .. they only have a 50% chance of making it. People are complaining they are feeling used, they feel a disconnect and separation from their spouse, and that they just can't get through to them. They grew apart, and of course infidelity. The next time someone tells you that they are having problems in their marriage ask them if they are using birth control. I will bet you 99 out of 100 people would say yes! God knew what he was doing when he made this most amazing, pleasurable.. and unifying act! It is between the Man, Wife, and God. Once you put a barrier there... not only do you block life.. you block love.. and when you block love.. you Block out God.
Love always creates. God was so full of love that he created the world, He so loved the world that he sent his son.. and so to we must be open to creation, and the will of God. So, when we deliberately block out God, we are blocking out the Love, and it becomes a act of pleasure alone.. and it makes your partner into a object for you to use for your own pleasure... and not someone to give your heart, and all to...but to take from and use them for a purpose.. a means to an end... Then you are done with them. This is all a cocktail full of poison to kill ones marriage. First you take God out, Second, you make your "lover" your object, and turns your Love into lust... Which will soon make your sex life, dull and uninteresting. It will be like a drug.. soon, no longer a high and wanting a new "experience". Here comes infidelity. Do you see how this is all fitting together? It is a lie which the Evil one wished you to believe that is best for you.. but in the long run hurts you and your marriage. Even if a couple does manage to stay together, most of them after years of using BC are not happy, no longer have sex... the amazing, pleasurable, mind-blowing thing that God intended to be, and they live almost separate lives from their spouses. This is not what God intended it to be! The Roman Catholic Chruch doesn't make up all these rules for the fun of it.. they do it because they know that it will hurt you and love you. Not only that it's God's law!
I heard a great comparison by Dr. Scott Hahn that I would like to use here. If a woman was eating thousands of calories of Food only for the pleasure of it, and then afterwards she would run to the bathroom to throw the food up... would you think that is OK? No, that's called bulimia... and is detrimental to ones body. Food is meant for the pleasure (of course) but also for the nourishment. When you separate those two things, there is something wrong there. Not to mention, how birth control is extremely unhealthy for a woman including being a cause of breast cancer.
There is research showing that the fluids that are passed between the man and a female are a unifying act also. Each partner is sharing the others hormones, which unifies them. The more the act is done, the more you are unified, and you begin to even be aroused by the scent of your own partner since your body is now associated this with great pleasure. Over time, the Sex act gets better, more beautiful, and more unifying. The way God intended it to be. But when we use a type of barrier, for example Condoms, we are blocking these fluids from being shared. Those unifying forces that God so amazingly created. Which also in turn makes the Husband and wife feel a separation.. and that they no longer know each other. When the husband and wife do not want to give themselves to each other wholly, it is detrimental to the relationship. Making Love, is just that, to make love, and love always creates. It is never selfish 1 Cor 13:4. Adding BC into your marriage, is saying I give you everything, but not the amazing gift of Life.. that aspect of me. I lay with you not for the purpose of marriage, but only to get a high from for the moment, and I am done. The ultimate act of self-giving, is when the ultimate unity, and Unity of Love will Happen.
Remember that Statistic in the beginning that 50% of married Couples get a divorce. One thing...That is actually out of the couples that actually get married. Since BC has entered into marriages, it has now taught the next generation that the purpose of marriage is no longer to "be fruitful and multiply" (Gen 1:28). Which in turn has made less and less couples make that unifying act of marriage under God. They see no point. Because if Sex only an act of pleasure and not of creation, and unifying act. What would be the reason that they would need to be united under God. Which brings me to my next point. Homosexuality, and Gay marriage.
Now, that society is under the impression that marriage is no longer the means which we join husband and wife, and out of the seed of love, children are born... Gay marriage of course is on the ballot. Marriage has been changed from a institution under God, that's purpose was to love so much to create. It is now only a name on a paper, a change of name, a ring on the finger and a big party. That is not marriage. We have become a society where pleasure is what rules, not love. Not only is homosexuality against natural law, it will never be able to have the love that a man and woman can share. The unifying act, the act of total self giving, the act of amazing love, that creates life. Until, this society changes, and makes Marriage again a institution of Love... Gay "marriage" will still be a threat. This culture is so confused, it no longer knows the meaning of marriage, and love. When you loose the meaning of Love, you lose God. When you loose God, you loose the purpose of Life. The sanctity of life.
Since we have lost the meaning of Love, true love, poor souls are searching for it... and finding it in the wrong places. Deep down they are searching for that real love. They try to find it in what the society says that Love is only when you feeeeeeel good, and when you get pleasure from something. Do, what you feel is right.. and good. So, they have sex ( you know that unifying act.. that is supposed to be for creation, which is now brought down to a commodity, and no longer an act for marriage) and they get pregnant. They have no idea what love is, and so out of selfishness ( remember here 1 Cor 13:4) they have an abortion. Murdering and Innocent child. A child, which God was trying to give to show them love.. which they were so deeply searching for. Life and Love are united, and when they are separated... what happens. They are lost. A baby is no longer seen as a life, and Love no longer exists.
"The fullness of a person is achieved by a unity of soul and body, but neither spirit nor body alone can love, only the two together. If this unity is broken, if only the body is satisfied, love becomes a commodity" Pope Benedict XVI (Cardinal Ratzinger)